Once more?

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Registered: 06-29-2007
Once more?
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Sun, 10-14-2007 - 8:31am

Hi well I need some advice here goes the story…


I met this guy and we flirted and I wasn’t serious with him. One day he said he wanted a relationship. I told him that I really like him but wouldn’t put my love into something that wouldn’t last (we were both temporarily living in another state), so we agreed on being friends but it was horrible as he would say things like he wouldn’t attend my wedding blah blah...So, I ignored him but one month later I went back and we become together. It was horrible caused there was no affectionate from him, he seemed so far away and when I asked him why was he acting like this he said he was just a bit hurt. he would create excuses instead of saying the truth, he would make empty promises. Soon, he would cancel plans, wouldn’t walk me home, would only spend a few hours with me and all I heard were excuses and excuses. I felt so sad being with him, and cried most of the time, i just can't trust him. One night he said that “we are different, everything I did does not mean that we are going to be together forever, we should live for the moment” After that night I wrote him an email asking him what he wanted, he replied that he want to see me regularly after his trip which was 2 weeks later. The trip was about 3 weeks, wouldn’t he want to meet me before he leave? Then, I found out that he had lied about some stuff and I texted him that I don’t want to see him anymore, he called up asking if I had sent the wrong message, I told him no and he just left. 1 week later I talked to him online. I asked him if he was angry because i didn't explain why i left and his reply was “I don’t feel angry because we are so different…” So we didn’t talk to each other for

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 9:25am

"Am I right? Should I meet him? Should I try once more? "
No, that wouldn't be smart. How was a relationship with him like again?
"It was horrible"
Oh, right. Horrible.

He lied to you, gave you the cold shoulder (probably because he thought he was getting back at you) and you were never happy with him because you couldn't trust him.

Maybe if you read your own post again you'll knock some sense into yourself...

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-29-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 11:58am

hey you are right, i pretty much figure it out after reading my own post anyway i am so glad i left and now i am going and i will never turn back again. thanks for your advice.


Great website by the way.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 12:12pm
Sometimes you just need to give yourself a slap :P
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 2:17pm

Welcome to the board rainynsunnylife,


You mentioned twice that time with him was 'horrible' - and you wrote "I felt so sad being with him, and cried most of the time, i just can't trust him."