one deal breaker?
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|Sat, 10-01-2011 - 9:29am|
Hi girls and guys,
I need advice, deep advice if possible. Please help me clear my head, because this has been eating away me for quite awhile.
Background: I am 27 and he is 29. I have been dating my lovely boyfriend for almost 3.5 years. It has been a GREAT 3.5 years. He never puts any pressure on me and he is a really nice person. Yeah, sometimes he does upset me because of the words and actions he chooses. He forgets to mention how pretty I am, and he forgets we make plans and the lack of plans.. etc. I do want to marry one day, and I want to marry him. I can see myself with him for the rest of my life but there is one MAJOR(?) problem. I really hate saying it is a problem, but it is.. because I when I was younger... I wanted to marry a man and move in with him, only him.
Problem: He recently purchased a house, yeah, he really did not want to and he was not yet ready, but he was pressured into doing so. His mom lost her job, her house, etc. She currently is not doing well, she has a lung diease. His sister and two brothers are living with him as well. He is the sole provider of all three of them. He is the only one paying the mortgage as well as buying all the food. This really frustrates me because he is being pushed around by his family. His sister has a low-paying job, but she just does not PAY ANYTHING! She just purchased a new car (do not ask me why) and his brothers have decent jobs -- but they do not pay because they have "credit card bills to pay off." They are freeloading in my eyes and I do not like this because how can I have a future with him if he is stuck? He is