One month broken and sex

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Registered: 10-17-2011
One month broken and sex
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Mon, 10-17-2011 - 4:22am
my boyfriend an I r 28 years old been together 7 years ups an downs, goods and bads an out of those 7 we lived together 2 of those years. we were happy, then money got tight an he started acting weird an moved out an left me with the apt for a month. we talked, texted an saw each other occasionally when he would come by our apt. he said he was shame bc money was slowing down an he might have to give up the apt that's y he moved out bc he didn't know how to tell me that, so from August 1 - 30 I stayed at the apt alone bc he felt less of a man, he lived with his mom during that time. he still paid all the bills an gave money for grocery while I was there. September 11 I decided to make it easy on him an give us a break an I moved out of our apt an back to my moms house, it wasn't a bad split, we cried, an talkede etc. after sept 11, I tried to break communication with him, but he stilled texted an called everyday, telling me he loved me an missed me an wanted to see me an that he hopes we end up back together an that something good comes out of us breaking, for a entire month he has been doing this, I love unconditionally (7 years together of course I would). for a month he texted an expressed all of how he felt bout me, I texted back also, two weeks ago he texted an told me that he been thinking bout us an all he been doing is thinking bout us and having sex again. he said I am the only girl he can think bout being with n that way. so for two weeks he's been trying to get me to come over an make love again, of course I have been playing hard to get for two weeks an he keeps begging. but now I'm thinking of giving n.... we love each other an we talked bout getting back together an getting things going again, but I don't want to give it an make love an we don't get back together. I don't feel he saying all this to do that, but playing hard is getting hard for me now..... I can see if we werent together 7 years, then I wouldn't do it at all, but after 7 years an we want to get back together I want to ? we both want a future (marriage an family with one another).... we talk bout that alot.... would it b a great idea to give in to having sex ?

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 5:07pm

Hi Rose.

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Registered: 10-17-2011
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 12:56pm
I agree ladies, I get the clear picture now. he doesn't want me, he only want my sex, if I want more I can't have sex with him. thanks ladies u r so right. I needed to hear it...
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 11:16am

He hasn't been able to hook up with anyone else yet, so you're the "go-to" for sex until he does.

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Registered: 10-17-2011
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 10:41am
I agree, I offered to help him with the money issues r wanted to talk bout it but he wouldn't. he has been telling me that he's misses me an our relationship for a month now, the sex thing jus came up like two weeks ago.....but from reading yall responses I think ima hold on to my goodies, if he wants, he will have to come stronger than that. I think it's time for us to get engaged, u r right the sex will flow if we get back together... but I think that's all he wants from me right now.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 10:29am

I think it says a lot about what's going on in his head, where his primary reason for getting together is to have sex.

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Registered: 10-17-2011
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 9:45am
by the way i didnt give.....I do believe we can resolve the issues, but I hope he's on the same page as far as our future goes, which he say he is, but maybe that is just talk to get me back n the bed....
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Registered: 10-17-2011
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 9:43am
I agree totally, I know if I give n, that I will expect something much more after that. u r right, we have to talk more. an I have to let him know where my expectations is an that I jus don't want sex, I want a commitment and a real future together.....
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Registered: 06-12-2011
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 8:45am

It seems as if you both are missing having sex with each other. But if could be a let down for either or both of you if one or the other feels it means you are back together and it turn out it