one night stand leads to something more

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Registered: 06-24-2007
one night stand leads to something more
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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 9:12am

met a dude about almost 3 months ago. what supposed to be a one night stand (i initiated) led to something more as time went by. we had chemistry along with endless conversations and hanging out together has been awesome. we had and still have great communication between us but because there have been issues with the father of my kids and him not being settled in life, career wise and all i think he is holding back on being committed to me. 2 weeks into seeing each other we both agreed to not give ourselves the title of boyfriend/girlfriend, since we knew things were still new and all, and i just want clarification on whether there is a future of us committing to one another in the future.

i have read and heard of signs of how you can tell if a guy is in to you. well, just about all the signs were there, from meeting his buddies and a couple of family members like a brother and close cousins. he wanted me to go with him to guys poker night. he brings me around his place and invites me to his workplace. he has exposed me to just about everyone he is close to in his life. he is the first guy i have met who suggests that i bring my kids along to hang out with him, even at his place. he invited me to a family get together for a mother's day dinner with immiediate family, but i declined the invitation. though, we have some issues (obstacles) that we have dealt with, i think he is having doubts of where "we" are heading.
he still calls me every now and then. our talks are still great. it has not changed. we get along well. the timing of us meeting is just off.
is it friendaship that we presently have and is this all that we will ever be? or could there be a future for us getting together again? was he into me? is there still hope? i just want to know if i am wasting time continuing to talk with him when i would like to have something more with him. he is such a great guy. he makes me happy and he makes me look at life in a different perspective which is such a good thing. what should i do?
wanting more.....

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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 12:27pm

He's really the person you need to ask. Next time you see him, talk to him about your concerns and see what he says (this is a conversation to have in person, not over the phone).

Sheri

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Registered: 06-23-2007
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 12:42pm
i was once in this situation and its the most confusing place you could ever be in but the best thing to do is just sit and talk with him about it don't hold anything back jenn
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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 9:35pm
thanks for your reply. i really appreciate it. it is confusing and i will try to be patient. as they say, good things come to those who wait. thanks again for your comments.
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Registered: 06-24-2007
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 9:41pm
thanks for your comments. this is the first time i ever joined in on a board talk. it's nice to hear opinions and suggestions offered from someone who lives from another part of the world. i think i pretty much know the answer to my questions. i just have to be patient and if it was meant to be, then it was meant to be. at least i am still enjoying being single by leaving my options open. it's hard though to be with someone else even if it is just a date. i can only think of that one person who caught my attention and made me look at life in a different perspective and i should be thankful that we still talk and are friends.
thanks again for your reply.