Is online chatting, cheating?
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Is online chatting, cheating?
| Fri, 01-23-2004 - 8:35pm |
I am looking for some peoples opinions on whether online chatting is cheating or not.
I am 30 and my boyfriend is 33.
My boyfriend of three years, does a fair amount of chatting online while I am not home. I have found logs of his account, so I know what he has done and said. It is inappropriate in my eyes, but it never involves a plan to actually meet or call or anything like that. We have talked about it in general, without me giving details of what I know exactly or how. I have made it clear I dont like that. I said, if things are crossing over the line, I want you to stop it. He responded with, if they are across the country from me, I am really not worried about it. I think in his eyes it is really no big deal. Since everything else with us is so good, I try and concentrate on that. He is home with me every night he is not working. He takes good care of me. We have fun together. And he sure SEEMS to love me. We talk about the future frequently. So, what do I do? And if I need to just let it go, how do I do that exactly?
I am 30 and my boyfriend is 33.
My boyfriend of three years, does a fair amount of chatting online while I am not home. I have found logs of his account, so I know what he has done and said. It is inappropriate in my eyes, but it never involves a plan to actually meet or call or anything like that. We have talked about it in general, without me giving details of what I know exactly or how. I have made it clear I dont like that. I said, if things are crossing over the line, I want you to stop it. He responded with, if they are across the country from me, I am really not worried about it. I think in his eyes it is really no big deal. Since everything else with us is so good, I try and concentrate on that. He is home with me every night he is not working. He takes good care of me. We have fun together. And he sure SEEMS to love me. We talk about the future frequently. So, what do I do? And if I need to just let it go, how do I do that exactly?

I think men feel that because their intentions/motivations/morals are obvious to them, that they should be obvious to us as well. Maybe your bf really feels he is being loyal to you while just having a little inocent fun, and doesn't realize how much it would/does hurt you. My therapist (male) says men sometimes need to be hit in the head with a frying pan before they realize what they are doing causes pain to others.
Hi
I don't know if I would say it's "cheating" but if it hurts you like that, why would he want to keep doing it?