Is online dating dead?

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Registered: 10-20-2013
Is online dating dead?
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Mon, 10-21-2013 - 6:38pm

When you look at the dating scene there are plenty of sites de rencontres that offer a picture and a story, but do they offer a real chance to site de rencontre gratuit femme? Typically, 40% of usea fake picture that is why doing a Google image search is the first step. Next, the expectations of people dating online are extremely high as most feel that the person behind the profile should be the exact person in person.

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Tue, 10-22-2013 - 4:47pm
I really would have to say that it's not. A friend of mine found her husband online and it took her only a matter of 2 months and they're married! I say that it's all about timing and the thing about pictures...yeah we all should put our most current photo of ourselves in an ad IF we're serious about finding someone because eventually you will have to meet so I don't see the point in being someone you're not...UNLESS you're playing games with people. I myself haven't had luck with finding the one for me....I'm going to use this time to work on ME and then try again in 2 months and see what happens.All I know is that all one can do is be true to yourself and you will attract the right person that is for you.I watched the movie Catfish yesterday and it made me cry some.It's really sad how some people will just lie and not think that there will be any consequences for their actions...you should watch the movie..NOT the mtv tv show BUT the movie.
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Registered: 02-13-2006
Tue, 10-22-2013 - 4:47pm
I really would have to say that it's not. A friend of mine found her husband online and it took her only a matter of 2 months and they're married! I say that it's all about timing and the thing about pictures...yeah we all should put our most current photo of ourselves in an ad IF we're serious about finding someone because eventually you will have to meet so I don't see the point in being someone you're not...UNLESS you're playing games with people. I myself haven't had luck with finding the one for me....I'm going to use this time to work on ME and then try again in 2 months and see what happens.All I know is that all one can do is be true to yourself and you will attract the right person that is for you.I watched the movie Catfish yesterday and it made me cry some.It's really sad how some people will just lie and not think that there will be any consequences for their actions...you should watch the movie..NOT the mtv tv show BUT the movie.
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Registered: 02-13-2006
Tue, 10-22-2013 - 4:47pm
I really would have to say that it's not. A friend of mine found her husband online and it took her only a matter of 2 months and they're married! I say that it's all about timing and the thing about pictures...yeah we all should put our most current photo of ourselves in an ad IF we're serious about finding someone because eventually you will have to meet so I don't see the point in being someone you're not...UNLESS you're playing games with people. I myself haven't had luck with finding the one for me....I'm going to use this time to work on ME and then try again in 2 months and see what happens.All I know is that all one can do is be true to yourself and you will attract the right person that is for you.I watched the movie Catfish yesterday and it made me cry some.It's really sad how some people will just lie and not think that there will be any consequences for their actions...you should watch the movie..NOT the mtv tv show BUT the movie.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-13-2006
Tue, 10-22-2013 - 4:47pm
I really would have to say that it's not. A friend of mine found her husband online and it took her only a matter of 2 months and they're married! I say that it's all about timing and the thing about pictures...yeah we all should put our most current photo of ourselves in an ad IF we're serious about finding someone because eventually you will have to meet so I don't see the point in being someone you're not...UNLESS you're playing games with people. I myself haven't had luck with finding the one for me....I'm going to use this time to work on ME and then try again in 2 months and see what happens.All I know is that all one can do is be true to yourself and you will attract the right person that is for you.I watched the movie Catfish yesterday and it made me cry some.It's really sad how some people will just lie and not think that there will be any consequences for their actions...you should watch the movie..NOT the mtv tv show BUT the movie.
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Registered: 02-13-2006
Tue, 10-22-2013 - 4:48pm

Oopp..sorry about that.glitch in the system..

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Wed, 10-23-2013 - 11:04am

I don't think they're dead at all.......I think the people who use those sites need to face the reality of the situation though.  You don't "fall in love" over written words!  You don't trust pictures unless you've literally used a web cam or skype to SEE the person.  Even then, you don't KNOW that person until you spend face-to-face time with them.  There are weirdos and creeps out there, and you can't see that on line.  I have to laugh when I hear people say "we're dating".......you don't "date" on a computer.  You date in person.  I think that most people, if they would get away from their computer and get out in the world, they would meet someone that would become a great partner.  You can't sit at home and expect Mr. or Ms. wonderful to knock at your door.  I've seen stupid women who have been conned out of thousands of dollars.........by a Nigerian in an internet cafe in Africa........pretending to be a wealthy Englishman who's money is tied up in some mysterious government problem.  Stupid desperate people are easily fooled, and those people shouldn't be allowed near a computer. 

Start taking college classes at night!  Do volunteer work.  Join clubs that are involved in things you're interested in......    This is how you meet people........FACE TO FACE!  This is how relationships happen. 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 10-30-2013 - 10:53am

I actually know quite a few women in their 40's who have met their current BFs (and we're talking serious relationships here) through OLD and my 24 yr old DD also met her BF that way as well.  He is a nice guy & they never would have run into each other because they don't live in the same city (but only 1/2 hour away).  My DD is a pediatric nurse, so she is not going to meet anyone at work and she works strange hours.  She does go out but you don't necessarily meet anyone better in a bar.  Now for me, I have given up on OLD--I think that when you're over 50 it's a lot harder.  The guys my age all seem to want women 20 yrs younger and it's the same guys who are on there forever.  Yet meeting people in person hasn't been any easier.  I do feel that the advantage for someone my age meeting in person is that age isn't the first thing that the guy knows about you so he isn't pre-judging you based on that.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 10-30-2013 - 9:28pm

 Once a person is out of a target rich environment.  It becomes much more difficult.  As people get older there are more demands on time and energy.     In the US political correctness has slowed many romances as the corp is worried about being sued by someone.    Many dating site never purge their lists so many have quir years ago.  The compter program just add years to their profile.  

   So join many and see which works for you.  But be sure you know what you are looking for. 

   If their picture is hot beware!  Although with digital cameras it is much more difficult to tell if the photo is stolen.  There is a Hawaii model agency that is used by criminals.  But the authorites are very lax in giving  advice.  Instead of working together each has their own tact.   The State Dept(US) has gorgeous people in trouble whitch is the best. 

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Registered: 10-14-2013
Sun, 11-03-2013 - 6:28pm

I would say it's not! I met my current boyfriend on a dating site! He's amazing and we are very serious and he shares all the same values as i do! You do have to filter through some of the not so good ones but there are ligit people out there!