Online flirting??

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2004
Online flirting??
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Fri, 01-09-2004 - 9:24pm
I have been in an on-off relationship for the last 4 years. A recurring issue has been my boyfriend's relationships with other women. Recently, he joined an online social network via which he has become friendly with several people, mostly women. He has been exchanging personal messages with a young girl, aged 19 (he is 29 to my 26), telling her he loves and is in love with her, among other things. She has all his contact information although I do not know if they have had any contact other than online.

When I confronted him, he said she was just a friend. He is yet unaware that I have access to his communications with this girl. We may likely be apart for most of this year and I am worried that this development could lead to real life flirting or sexual infidelity.

I would appreciate some insight/advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-09-2003
In reply to: taiina
Fri, 01-09-2004 - 10:24pm
Well, he lied to you about her being just a friend if he is telling her that he loves her. Its not worth wasting ur time wiht a man who isnt being honest with you. Im sorry but maybe he is looking for a thrill through his "online socials." Im sorry if i havent been much help, all I know is that if my man ever lied to me about something like that he wouldnt be my man anymore. A relationship that is worthwhile is one based on honesty and trust. How can you trust anything he says now or ever. If he lies to you about this then how do you know he hasnt lied to you before or will lie to you in the future. You just never know so be careful
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
In reply to: taiina
Sat, 01-10-2004 - 10:32am
He hasn't changed then has he? He keeps flirting with other women and lying to you and you keep taking him back. He knows you will. You hope he will change but he doesn't.

When do you think that you will accept that he won't change? Why do you think you deserve this?

Your relationship is about mistrust and other issues. I think it is time to move on.