Only one problem

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Only one problem
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Thu, 03-18-2004 - 4:20pm
Hey my names Amanda. This guy and I have been dating for one year now. We have had some seriously big problems in the past. When I finally thought he got over our past mistakes he brings them up. About one month after we met he had another relationship. Also, a sex partner. After about five months he took my virginity. About the two weeks later we had decided not to see eachother because of a fight. So I ran off and got drunk and someone took advantage of me. After that we were ok. Our next problem was my ex best friend was all over him. He didnt care what I thought about it. He says he didnt know what he wanted. So we broke up for about two weeks. On the last day of those two weeks I was with someone else sexually. Someone he new and was friends with. I thought well might as well move on because obviously he was with my ex bestfriend. Even if he didnt have sex with her he almost did. The day after I had sex with that guy I told him because he asked. Then he asked me back out and said he was sorry and that he didnt know what he wanted but now he does. The problem is he asked me if I had cumed when we had sex...he said all I want is the truth and then I will leave you alone. I couldnt lie but then again I wasnt positivly sure I had...so I said I think I did. He said you cant cum unless you liked it. I said I didnt like it. Well he was ok for awhile and now he says the day I awnser his Question which is IF I CUMMED OR IF I WAS WET HOW COULD I NOT LIKE IT? then he would give me the world and he would be happy. He says that you only get wet or cum if you like it or get into the sex. He says its not possible to cum and not like it. I love him I dont know what I would do without him. Please help me someone. I dont know how to awnser his Question. Do you?
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Registered: 11-01-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 5:24pm
sorry but all the cheating, back and forth, ups and downs, and distrust really don't make this relationship sound healthy. there are more important issues (trust issues) at hand to be solved than sex. he shouldn't get all on your case about it... you guys need to set down and talk about this stuff.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 5:41pm
Which is the 'one' problem? There are so many issues here I don't know where to start. This relationship is a mess and not worth answering that question for. No answer will heal your relationship.

Move on and learn a lesson about being faithful and honesty.

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 2:51pm
Well it wasnt cheating because at those times we took breaks. I think this relationship is over. Whether I want it to be or not. I am just going to tell him any awnser I give you wont be the right one and I really dont have an awnser. I ... I dont know what to do. Thanks for your input.