Open Relationships - Need Advice!
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Open Relationships - Need Advice!
| Fri, 10-15-2004 - 2:49pm |
I met my current partner through his cousin who I had an one night stand with. When I first met my partner we both agreed to have an open relationship so I thought seeing his cousin was ok. But I was wrong! A year into my relationship with my partner, his cousin asked if I wanted an one night stand. I wasn't sure but my partner said it was up to me and I was a free agent. So I slept with his cousin but regret it. I have been with my partner for four years now and last year another cousin of my partner asked me out. I didn't pursue it but I did flirt and phone him a few times until my partner went mad and told me not to speak to him. I realise that this was wrong and regretted what I did. But now, my partner never lets me forget. Laterly, he keeps winding me up about having sex with my friends and sister. It hurts me and I know why he is doing it. I have told him I was sorry but he never told me he cared about me. If he did, none of this would have happened as I would have respected him. He still tells me that he is not bothered about me and I can do what I want. He still insist on an open relationship but he thinks when we are together, I am his girl. I am confused...does he like me more than he's letting on or not? Please help me!!!

The rules for open relationships are different and they vary for each open relationship depending upon the parties. Certainly they can become confusing, and certainly it seems as though they can also prevent close bonding between two individuals You need to get this all out in the open and talk it over with your partner. Find out what is and isn't all right. But beyond that, do you enjoy this kind of relationship? Is it getting you what you personally want and need? Do you feel loved, valued and respected, and do you feel that way about yourself?
You said you didn't respect your partner - and his taunting you with sleeping with your friends and even sister sounds to me more like a form of torture than a mutually loving relationship. Some people enjoy torture and humiliation in their relationships.
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