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|Tue, 02-18-2014 - 5:41am|
I live with my boyfriend and we met almost two years ago...been living together for five months. It's generally a happy and healthy relationship.
One thing that I am having trouble getting used to is the fact that he has many close friends...and I don't. He talks to them a lot and they spend a lot of time together in person. When he and I first started dating I was looking forward to meeting his friends. For quite some time we would hang out. Unfortunately, I can't hide the fact that I simply don't have much in common with his friends and I don't like to spend long periods of time with them. They can chit chat and BS for a long time about things I don't necessarily take an interest in...and even if I did...I don't know if I can BS for long because I was always an introvert and quiet. I like to socialize, but not that much. I always preferred to spend time alone, or alone with that one special someone in my life, with my parents, or with people I do have things in common with...like my co-workers or those I went to school with.
I guess that's normal, but I feel bad because my boyfriend's friends are such a big part of his life! And we don't have any mutual friends. And unfortunately I don't have many friends of my own. Only a few and I don't talk to them or socialize with them often. I feel bad becasue while I want to go out and have fun with him...I never do when his friends are around and he seems to always have a good time with them. They all "bond" over the same things...work, cars, trucks, snowmobiles, fishing, cooking...
I also am embarrassed for having to admit this, but I feel jealous too. I wish I could have the kinds of friendships he has. Maybe I wouldn't feel so insecure.
What do you suggest I do?