Others opinions, PLEASE.

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Registered: 04-23-2003
Others opinions, PLEASE.
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 5:48pm
My ex-husband and I have been trying to work things out. He is currently living with me and we have two children together. He has a habit of breaking up with me and then coming back when he decides he misses me. He says he can't be himself when he is with me which makes it so he can't be truly happy while being with me. He is currently going back and forth between staying and going. He usually goes through this and I push him out because it hurts and that is how I know to deal with it. It is really important to me that he makes the final decision this time because if he decides to leave I have decided that it will be for good. Its past time for me to move on with my life if he decides to leave again. He is currently changing his mind on a daily basis and a huge part of me wants to just tell him to leave and get it over with. What I really want is for him to decide that he wants this to work and for him to find a way to be happy here with me and our children. He seems to be afraid to completely give up the "single" life and I really don't know what to do anymore. Do I make the decision for him once again? Do I try to continue sticking it out so that the decision is his this time? Thank you very much for any input I can get!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 5:54pm
I say tell him it's counseling or no deal. Also, I'd give him a time limit, such as, "I made an appointment with a marriage counseling on XXX day. If you are there, great. If not, it's over forever and you need to leave me alone and let me move on." Period.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 7:18pm
Go to marriage counseling. Do it for your kids. They don't deserve this 2 parent/1 parent household based on the current whim.