Out of the Blue!

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Out of the Blue!
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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 11:20am
I got an instant message the other day completely out of the blue from a guy I haven't talked to in 3 years. He started out asking how I was blah blah blah, and then asked if we could get together and "hang out sometime". Here's the thing: I met this guy at a party, it was my freshman year in college, and I went home with him. We didn't do anything, kissed a little, then fell asleep. I had a date to a football game w/ him the next weekend, spent the weekend together, good times. (We never did anything beyond kissing). Then I go months w/o hearing from him, until I see him at a party. Then he starts calling etc again. So I agree to see him, and he stands me up, 3 TIMES IN ONE WEEKEND! A few months later I started dating my bf that I am still with.

When he messaged me, I told him that I was seeing someone, he said he kind of was. not serious, but he still wanted to get together. Knowing this guy, and knowing all the times he begged me for sex, I don't think he wants a friendly get together. I kept turning him down for dinner etc, until he asked if I wanted to get lunch then. So I'm thinking about it. I might add that I can be vindictive. Part of me wants to go and legitimately talk and catch up, you know. The other part wants to stand him up like he did me. Oh yeah, my bf knows about all of this. He told me I could go if I wanted, he knows I won't do anything, so that's not a worry. So girls, what do you think I should do? Thanks!!

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Registered: 09-18-2004
Wed, 10-13-2004 - 2:17pm
Why not have some fun? If he'd going to pay for lunch, use it to your advantage. Go out, catch up like old friends(and that's it!), and after he's footed the bill tell him how in love you are with your boyfriend! Or bring your boyfriend with you.. At least it will be a fun story to tell later on.

~ Amanda
  

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