Overcoming jealousy...
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Overcoming jealousy...
| Tue, 10-12-2004 - 5:09pm |
I hope someone can give me good advise. My fiance is a comic book writer and is always in search of new models to portray characters. I'm a very trusting and understanding person and stay pretty involved with his work. He does talk to so many people throughout his day that he forgets when he hasn't told me something, or forwarded me some work to look at, etc. Well, here's my dilemna, I went to review his website to find that one of his models is a girl that he casually dated in the past. She is the only girl that makes me jealous, because I feel like she's the one that "might've been". From what I understand they were good together, but both very busy in their careers and she did not have time for a relationship. They remained friends until about a year ago, she stopped talking to him for some reason (I assumed it was her jealousy of me because he had just told her we were moving in together) and that's the last I had heard of her. When I saw her picture on his website, I sent him an email asking when she re-appeared and he very non-chalantly told me just recently and they have only talked online. He said she apologized to him and said she had a lot of personal problems going on and that's why she was MIA for so long, yada-yada.
I don't feel that he has any ill intentions with her. He never hides anything from me, and when I asked him about anything, he is upfront with me. But I can't help but be scared that it's going to lead to that. What really hurts is that, if he did, I would understand. I mean, she's beautiful, bright, ambitious, has no children (I have 2 from a previous relationship), and seems to have a great future ahead of her.
I realize that I need to talk with him about this, but how can I do that without sounding like I'm blaming him?
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| Wed, 10-13-2004 - 2:32am |
Nothing worse then a gorgeous ex girlfriend! The fact is that he chose you over her when he moved in with you. I would talk to him when your not upset and not prone to crying or ranting. Smile at him and hold his hand, tell him how much you care for him and let him know sweetly that you can't help feeling a pang of jealousy. Ask him to always be honest with you because you would rather know if he's interested in someone else then to always wonder. If he says he's not interested and he loves you then believe him since he could have persued her before and did'nt. At least he'll know how you feel and should she come on to him he will be more likely to let you know then to hide it. When a man tells you about a woman that hit on him he usually belongs exclusively to you.
