Overreacting???

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Overreacting???
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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 11:18am
Am I overreacting or is it okay for my 39 year-old husband of 8 years to be talking via cell phone and text messaging a 21 year-old female at all hours of the day and night even though she claims she is a lesbian? I am not worried that he is cheating; I am just concerned about the moral issue.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: amareige
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 2:41pm

Welcome to the board amareige,


You are not over-reacting. His behavior is inappropriate.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
In reply to: amareige
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 6:24pm
I have! He said he is sorry, but he does not get the point. He thinks it is innocent; just a friend.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
In reply to: amareige
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 7:07pm
P.S. Thank you so much. I guess there is only one way to deal with this and to make the marriage work he needs to step up or I am going to step out.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
In reply to: amareige
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 7:11pm
I say you are totally not overreacting. I seriously wonder about the lesbian thing. Please. I would confront your husband and try to get more info. Or better yet, tell him you want to invite her to dinner or something so you can meet her. Since she is a lesbian, he shouldn't have a problem with that.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-29-2003
In reply to: amareige
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 10:45am
What moral issue are you talking about? I would say it's highly unusual for someone 38 years of age to be 'buddies' with someone that much younger.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2007
In reply to: amareige
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:14pm

totally inappropriate. you are not overreacting, you are underreacting.

what are you going to do about this? don't you deserve so much better?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
In reply to: amareige
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 1:23pm
So far he has ceased communication with her. I guess we will just take it day by day and see if we can get back on track.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2007
In reply to: amareige
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 4:05pm
I wouldn't be ok with it, lesbian or not. Give us more info, but a married man should not be in constant communication with a woman who is not his wife , unless it's a work situation (and even then only on certain types of jobs.)