overthinking?

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Registered: 11-30-2006
overthinking?
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Sat, 06-16-2007 - 1:47am

hi, i just finished my first year at UCLA, and am learning, the hard way, that dating in college is quite different/ more confusing

i met an adorably cute fellow frosh Bryce in March, we spent that month adn the next flirting, talking on aim, hanging out at parties, occasionally kissing. we started "hooking up" for the last four weeks of school, and since we lived in the same dorm, seeing each other about 5 times a week...(probably too much for him), we shared a lot of mutual friends...and went to a few soccer games, and dinner, he called me to have me come meet his sister and father when he was moving out at the end of the semester - intro was "hey this is dianna, i told you about her - we went to each other's formals" (ok?)

and for the not so rosy side:

his friends have told me he really likes me, and gets all excited to see me, but he's always very nonchalant and casual with me, nto a lot of "sweetie, baby, etc" no flowers for either of our formals...

two weeks before we started hooking up, he called me clingy...i was pissed, but didn't say anything becasue we both seemed aware i was aware of what he said...adn he took me out to a nice dinner the next night, should we ahve talked?

i never had a what are we "talk" with him since there were only four weeks left in school...but want to once school starts again in sept. but how do i go about this? i've never had to have a "talk"

plus i know he's shy but sometimes he really irriates me. he took single off his facebook profile with out telling me...why? and went to formal with a friend of a friend who needed a date...and i was like, so if i get asked to another guy's formal it's ok for me to go? and he said yes...and then when i told him Billy asked me he said i shouldn't go (cause billy's made it clear he likes me) hypocritical?

but now it's summertime, and we talk occasinally...but two weeks ago our im convesation was fine and ended with me saying "call me sometime" him saying "yea def" and havne't heard from him since...minus a few ims while i was away asking is dillon (mutual friend) was ok after his break up, and "call me sometime, miss you, good night dianna", ummmmmm what the heck?? do i call?? or just text casually and then at the end tell him to call me?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: nyc22066
Sat, 06-16-2007 - 3:47pm

Hi nyc22066 and welcome to the board -


You are in what I call a "Situational relationship" this is based on your