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| Tue, 01-27-2004 - 12:18pm |
MISSKITTEN19 emailed me this reply, I think for you, but she had posting problems....so I cut and paste it here for you as she has been through the same thing. I too had trouble replying to your post this morning but I can start a new discussion.
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for some reason I can't post this on the relationship saver board, so im emailing it to you.... my email is hellofromny@hushmail.com if you wish to chat about it, im so sorry for you, i'm going through the same thing and feel sick to my stomach
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i went through this same thing a while ago with my bf
found his profile on various dating sites
went on the sites and chatted with him with a fake profile with the intention of setting up a meeting... then wimped out and ended up telling him it was my "Friend" emailing him and why was he chatting with other girls.
i got the whole "oh its just harmless flirting that i would have stopped immediately if it ever came to calling someone or meeting them, ill stop it".
i asked him immediately to delete all his profiles. he told me he did. two weeks later his profile popped up again when i ran a search. the letters in his user name had been switched around and the profile was the same, except it now said (in a relationship, looking for "play")
he claims he didnt sign up for it again, that someone must have stolen his password. we are working through it but it hurts (i can totally relate to that feeling in your stomach when you first discover this). He says he only does these things because he feels "ugly" and wants to have people online tell him hes cute. He admits to "hotchatting" online and says he'll try to "phase it out".
People might think what you're doing is sneaky, but take it from me, I wish I had taken my situation to the point where I proposed meeting him to see if it was just online fantasy or he would really meet someone in person. Every day, I think "what if", "what if i had asked him to meet me, would he have shown up"?
Do whats in your heart, but i would try to catch him in the act, otherwise you're going to get the same excuses i did.
