Parents "keep him busy"

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Registered: 09-13-2004
Parents "keep him busy"
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Mon, 09-13-2004 - 11:56am
I have been seeing this wonderful guy for 2 years now, and his biggest fault is letting people walk all over him. He will drop everything to go fix someone's car that he hasn't heard from in a year. Anyway, the biggest problem with this is his own parents. He does everything for them, but it's starting to become a problem. I live a little far away, and every time I drive up there to see him, they send him on errands and make him do housework the entire time, while I sit by myself. It's starting to get ridiculous.

For example, this Sunday I went up there to take him out for his birthday, and because I was away and hadn't seen him in 3 weeks. His dad asked him to quickly help him with something, which I was okay with. TWO HOURS later, he was still in the backyard BUILDING A SHED!! I sat and watched TV alone inside. He knows I get upset about this, but he feels like they're his parents, and since he still ives there, that he should do what they ask him. It happens every single time I go up there and it's really becoming a problem! What should I do?? Help!
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 3:52pm
Yes, he lives in their house, but having some time to go out to a movie or spend with you shouldn't be unreasonable. Maybe before they ask for his help, he can lay out his weekend plans for them, hey, mom, dad, junglepunk is coming this weekend and Sat we plan to go X and Sunday we plan to do Z. Or maybe he needs to ask them if they mind that you come to visit. Also, he has to be the one to emotional grow and discuss this with them, even though it bothers you, the action has to come from him.


Carrie