Parents will pay attorney retaining fee

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Registered: 07-27-2002
Parents will pay attorney retaining fee
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Tue, 06-01-2004 - 3:19pm
My parents told me they will pay for my retaining fee for my attorney but they gave me a time frame and now I only have 1 week left. They want me to be rid of this guy.

I know you guys are alright on this matter and i'm sure he won't EVER change and I would be afraid he would do the same to my next son....but there is a part of me that loves him, i'm just sad this happened. Is he what you call a socio-path liar?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 4:57pm
Have you considered that if you don't take them up on this offer...the next "offer" is going to be the one that you have from CPS saying that you're an inappropriate, irresponsible, abusive parent - because of a charge they filed so that your kids aren't subjected to your refusal to be responsible and mature and intelligent.

Erin

quickblade14@hotmail.com

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Registered: 07-27-2002
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 5:11pm
Erin~ My parents would never do anything like that. Also I'm very responsible and my children mean the world to me, thats why I moved back to my house...I know what your trying to convey to me..

its just hard for me to let go..and I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY? I can handle seeing him like this,from my house, but I don't ever see myself living back with him...does that make sense?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 6:12pm
He did not get with you so that you would live apart, and be a sexual companion to him.

And you did not marry to live apart, pay your own bills, handle your own responsibilities, and have sexual companionship by request, eihter.

He married you to get out of debt via your obedience, subserviance, and total acquiesing to his demands, requirements, priorities, values and goals in HIS life - to meet HIS needs - per HIS standards.

So, he's resorted to stealing from you, lying to you - what about this makes you believe thatshould you suggest that the ONLY benefit you are to him in sexual on occasion that he's not going to become violent, abusive, or slandering towards you?

You love the 'idea of being in love, taken care of, romanced, prioritized, reassured and comforted" and you refuse to see that you're in a den of vipers as a result of refusal to acknowledge the facts.

You're going to get snakebit....hanging around a snake.

Erin

quickblade14@hotmail.com

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Registered: 07-27-2002
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 9:20pm
Erin~ I don't disagree with anything your saying...I know your right. We just had a conversation(if you want to call it that) and I mention just one thing about his past and he got so bent out of shape. If you can;t learn about someone's past that your married too how can you become one...this is what he doesn't get. ANYWAYS HE GOT MAD AND SAID THAT HE WISHED AT TIMES THAT HE NEVER MET ME AND SAID WERE DONE. AND HE HUNG UP..