past relationship abuse?? problem

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Registered: 07-11-2007
past relationship abuse?? problem
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Sun, 07-29-2007 - 3:55pm

Im tryin to figure my girlfriend out. She has a hard time with commitment and wants to meet new people and have fun. But also wants to have a relationship with me but doesnt want it to be exclusive.

She is open with me and told me that she was abused when she was 22, actually she was engaged too. I know that he beat her and never wanted her to see her family and friends, he wanted her to himself. She is now 27yrs old and Im 22 and we are perfect together, everytime we are together it gets better and better and we try new things and we always find something new that we have in common or were good at together,we see each other about 3 days a week and text on the days were not together, but like I said she has commitment problems and is weird about alot of things. She wants to have her own life, her own friends and is weird of me meeting her one guy friend. We have talked about this multiple of times and I said when can I meet him and she said "he invites her to come out with him and his friends". She said she wants to take things slow, I said if thats what I have to do than I will do it. I just want things to move forward eventually.

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Registered: 07-11-2007
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 1:38pm
Well I really want this girl and there is just that something thats keeping to her. Ive never felt this way before about a women. Although I think her last 2 relationships has ended because she likes long distnace relationships b/ she can do what she wants and it has caused abandonment. As much as this girl doesnt want what I want at this time, I cant leave her, theres just that something. I dont know if she just wants it to be casual so she see's how I work(if u know what I mean) or what? I just want us to move forward eventually. I know we will be both starting work here soon, so maybe that time away will help or maybe not

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