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the past surfaced
| Wed, 08-17-2011 - 8:25am |
I have found out from old texts that my boyfriend of 8 months was still seeing another girl the first month we where going out together. He was inviting her over to his place, and we were sleeping together already. i know that that's not the person he is now and I know that once he commited to me there was no one else.
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Sleeping together doesn't automatically equate to exclusive relationship. So yes you may have been sleeping with him at the same time he was with this other girl but if you two didn't have the exclusivity talk, then he was free to do as he pleased. I am assuming that by him committing to you, you mean you had the exclusivity talk, so if there has been no problem since this talk, then you have nothing to be worried about.
As the other poster said.......unless he agreed to "exclusivity" before you ever got into bed with him.....he did nothing wrong.
There is no basis forgiveness for doing that blindly means you are setting yourself up to be a chump again.
I think you are using "shoulds" and "suppose tos"
If you're 27 years old, and this is the BEST you've ever been treated, you must have been with some real losers before him.
"There is no basis forgiveness for doing that blindly means you are setting yourself up to be a chump again." -This, from mhash, is really important.
Sorry but seven months doesn't change a man's personality. If this is the best you've been treated, I'd say that at least you're improving, but you're dating someone who is not really honest and doesn't seem to have a lot of integrity. I'd think really hard about whether you really want to invest in this person.