people abused as children now married

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Registered: 08-11-2007
people abused as children now married
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Sat, 08-11-2007 - 11:50pm
Does an abused person from their childhood that has gotten married ever stop undermining their partner, by rallying people against them by telling them twisted stories from their own viewpoint that make the partner look bad and needing shaming?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2007
Sun, 08-12-2007 - 4:36pm
We need more information
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2007
Sun, 08-12-2007 - 5:01pm

I think the more important question should be asked....why would one continue to be undermined and remain in that type of relationship?

Thom

 

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 08-12-2007 - 5:49pm

Not without psychological help and/or a whole lot of willpower

Being abused is an explanation for this kind of behavior but it does NOT excuse it. All mentally competent adults are able to control their behavior toward others, and if they can't, they should be seeking the help of a professional. Being the victim of abuse is sad and should never happen, but it is no excuse for perpetuating the cycle. If you are in a relationship with someone like this please strongly consider ending it. It's not okay to be treated like that regardless of why.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 1:13am
You will have to tell me who you are.