Personality clash

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-29-2004
Personality clash
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 9:16pm
My best friend and I have been friends for a long time. We're both in our twenties but at different stages of our lives right now. Since college our personalities have developed and we've become ying and yang. Even more so now since we are at different stages of our lives. I'm really starting to see all the things that we don't have in common right down to what makes us happy in life. I feel like I can't connect in conversations or her stories. My friend doesn't get my 'simpleness is happiness' lifestyle and I don't get her 'materialistic' and as she has even admitted 'self-righteous' lifestyle. She knows I'm indepedent and likes to figure things out on my own but she still lays on the advice which always ends up being in the direction of exactly how she's living her life. I'm wondering if things will change for her or I or both of us once we start taking on huge adult resonsibilities in our life. Am I being petty and should try harder at accepting my friend the way she is? Has anyone else had this type of clash with a friend?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 9:32pm
Good for you for not buying into the materilistic world your friend is in.... how do you get along being so different? You have less contact. You meet once a month for lunch to catch up.

You are at an age where you are becoming who you are. Even if you 'accept' your friend for who they are, it doesn't mean you have the same values, it doesn't mean you want to continue to be a part of their life. That's normal. Sometimes we out grow relationships.

My best to you.


Carrie