petty petty petty.

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Registered: 09-13-2006
petty petty petty.
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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 11:29pm

Hi I'm kinda new here. Im in a may-december relationship and have a few issues with how its going so far. Hes 46 and Im 27 and he's my boss but not for long. I have some trust issues that remind me of being obsessive compulsive and from that I pick out small things that I'm afraid will turn big such as....him not texting me back right away...him not being everything I want and need...to me these are signs that he doesnt love me but in reality I know I am blowing things out of proportion. I dont want to hide all my fears and I feel I should talk to him about them, but since they are such small issues I'm feeling insecure and nervous. We've only been dating about a month so I dont expect him to be head over heels or be there for me 24/7 (he does have kids and most of the time when we text its at work), but why do I look for the worst in every relationship I get into? Any advice or support appreciated. Thanks!

Sarah

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 12:45pm

Hi sarahb_81,


Here are your previous posts so others can catch up on your story:


what should I do?


how do i decide what is best


Could be you look for the worst because you expect the worst, don't feel you deserve a good, loving, healthy relationship, could be past experiences, could be insecurities.... consider short-term counseling to help you figure it out.


Have you read: Are You the One for Me? by Barbara DeAngelis?

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Registered: 03-06-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 6:40am

"him not being everything I want and need..."


Nobody is ever anything you want and need.


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Registered: 09-13-2006
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 9:19pm
thanks carrie! i had forgotten all about that post!!!! i have heard of the book you recommended and have been looking around for it. Ive only seen in one bookstore so far and I didnt buy it that day but I think in the future I might.