petty petty petty.
Find a Conversation
| Sat, 03-22-2008 - 11:29pm |
Hi I'm kinda new here. Im in a may-december relationship and have a few issues with how its going so far. Hes 46 and Im 27 and he's my boss but not for long. I have some trust issues that remind me of being obsessive compulsive and from that I pick out small things that I'm afraid will turn big such as....him not texting me back right away...him not being everything I want and need...to me these are signs that he doesnt love me but in reality I know I am blowing things out of proportion. I dont want to hide all my fears and I feel I should talk to him about them, but since they are such small issues I'm feeling insecure and nervous. We've only been dating about a month so I dont expect him to be head over heels or be there for me 24/7 (he does have kids and most of the time when we text its at work), but why do I look for the worst in every relationship I get into? Any advice or support appreciated. Thanks!
Sarah

Hi sarahb_81,
Here are your previous posts so others can catch up on your story:
what should I do?
how do i decide what is best
Could be you look for the worst because you expect the worst, don't feel you deserve a good, loving, healthy relationship, could be past experiences, could be insecurities.... consider short-term counseling to help you figure it out.
Have you read: Are You the One for Me? by Barbara DeAngelis?
"him not being everything I want and need..."
Nobody is ever anything you want and need.