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| Mon, 12-29-2003 - 11:15am |
Well I am 36 years old and I have been married for almost ten years. I am not sure what i should make of this situation, i am married to a harworking man, he is good with the kids and we seem to be okay. The other day while making a call on his cell phone, I came across a woman's name whom i recognized as a woman we both know, him longer. I knew her father had died over the summer and he went to the wake. Well turns out he told her to call him if she needed someone to talk to, being his mother died about 10 years before. Wel l she must have taken him up on it and has called about 5 to 6 times.. I feel like he should have told me this was going on.. He says it was no big deal and didn't even think of it. I am feeling alittle betrayed and don't know why he wouldn't tell me. He says they just talked on the phone and he consoled her.

Given that you choose the negative spin, snooped in his cell phone and think of this as a betrayal makes me wonder if you lack trust in your husband. Since you snooped in his cell phone, did you notice if he initiated a call to her or did he only accept calls from her?
When was the last time he talked to her?
Carrie
This is a woman you both know who is a close enough friend that your husband went to her father's wake.
Your husband spoke to her on the phone a few times during the process of her grieving for her father.
IMO, this is a totally normal thing and does not raise any red flags. So what that he didn't tell you that she called? Do you trust your husband? If so, then what is the problem? The man consoled a friend who was grieving the loss of her father.
Good Luck
ab25