phone crazy

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Registered: 01-13-2004
phone crazy
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Wed, 01-14-2004 - 11:26pm
Hello,

I have a little bit of a problem I need help with, I call my boyfriend way too much, like if he says he will call say around 5pm, if he doesn't call me by 5:15 I am staring at the phone to call him, and I usually give in. I try to cut back and wait for him to call me but it never works. I think he is starting to get mad at me for doing this, but I just can't help it. I love talking to him as we only get to see each other on weekends, but he is not really a phone person like I am. what should I do?????? any advice?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 12:46pm
It would be easy to say to you to just stop, but it's apparent you are having trouble controlling the impulse to call him. Plan ahead and make sure you start an activity a half hour or so before the anticpated call. Do something that would prevent you or at least make it difficult for you to sit by the phone and wait, and then finally give in and call. Start your laundry, bake or cook something, mop the floors, write a letter, take a bath, play a game on the internet, pay your bills, or call a friend (if you have call waiting, you won't miss his call). The point is to do something other than wait, preferably something that takes your complete attention. You know that annoying him by jumping the gun is counter productive, so be productive. You'll accomplish some tasks and, at the same time, learn self-control and improve your relationship. Good luck!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 2:04pm
Donate $20 to charity - or whatever amount will add up for you -each time you don't wait for him to call you. I would be annoyed if I were him and what you are doing is selfish and needy and has little to do with love which is a giving kind of emotion - giving to him means giving him the space to call you especially if he is not a phone person.