physically with me but mind is out there

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Registered: 08-04-2004
physically with me but mind is out there
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 3:03am
I need some advise and thoughts about my dilemma. My boyfriend and I have been together for 11 months now. We have had some issues (as stated in my past message i posted) for the most part, he is a good guy. He is very artistic in many ways; his writings on plays, movie scripts and tv shows and he is very tallented at painting as well. His mind is all over the place sometimes.....which is ok sometimes, but sometimes when we are together...he is off in another world. Also, there are times were we are together and he's into me, especially if I go through major efforts to get his attention like; (dressing up sexy and doing a dance show for him, anything sexual usually gets his attention) I also feel as though he doesn't really listen to what I am saying. I might say something and he will forget in a second. Our relationship is wierd! It can be so dam good at times, when we are on the same page and then other times we are off and argue and get mad over stupid things. My question is; How do I get him to stay with me with his mind when we are together? Our sex life is great! then sometimes he states that I don't make enough of an effort in the relationship. I am confused! I love this man and we have much in common and do alot of things together that make us happy. But like I stated before......His mind will drift away and he will close up and not talk about whats on his mind, when I ask him. If I am too mushy with him he doesn't like it, if I get assertive he chases me. HELP! Any advise would be greatly appreciated!