Pictures in my mind of them doing it

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Registered: 09-05-2006
Pictures in my mind of them doing it
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Sun, 07-22-2007 - 11:53pm

Help

I found out that my husband had been involved with finding women online using such sites as Adultfriendfinder, Yahoo personals (claimed he was a widower), going to massage parlors, calling escorts etc.

I found out by him accidentally leaving his cell phone in my car and since they look exactly alike I thought it was mine. I noticed a missed message and when I phone it is was a woman wanting to know when she was going to see him again. I confronted him with what I found. He claimed it was simple, the woman had dialed the wrong number.

I had written the number down and phone her myself. She advised me that he was 'trolling' the internet claiming to be single.

In any event I then broke into his email and found emails to her and other women. There was 1 in particular, Barbie. He had engaged in ana- sex with Barbie. Something we had never done, something that he had never expressed an interest in up until her. He did though, before I found out, attempt to get me to engage in it with him. I tried but the thought disgusted me, and the pain was something I can not describe. So we didn't.

My question is this "Each and everytime we attempt to get intimate and he goes to touch my bottom or I feel that his hands are going anywhere near my but- I tighten up, I turn off, I just lay there and tear up. I get these images in my mind of him and her engaging in ana- sex. Am I crazy? Am I wrong?

I need your opinion on this Extremely badly,

Thank you

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Registered: 09-05-2006
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 10:55pm

Twin:

Thank you for being so kind and caring.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 5:14pm

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Does he REALLY believe that old, fat and professional people can't get herpes, aids, gonnorhea or clamydia, hep C and a host of other stds???

That's just crazy. Ridiculous, even.

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Registered: 09-05-2006
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 7:58pm

Blondie:

Word for word my response to that statement, that he had the gaul to say to me with a straight face, was the exact same.

Additionally, I thought how sad that he would even say it about those women. There were some who were just out there looking for that special person. The ones that knew he was married, or had set up shop in a massage parlor, or were escorts, or he found on Adultfriendfinder - well, no, I had better not go there.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 3:35am
Just wanted to remind you that we have the Cyber-Cheating and Emotional Affairs board on iV, too, now. :) You can link via my siggie.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 11:23am
Thanks. I gave her the link to the Betrayed Spouse Support board since he did have sex with the woman. "He had engaged in ana- sex with Barbie."
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 3:23pm
Well, I missed that. Just like me. ;) Sorry.
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Thu, 07-26-2007 - 3:30pm
No problem. You are welcome here any time.

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