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| Fri, 02-08-2008 - 3:48am |
Hello,
Background: I'm 21, from a small suburban area in ohio, I'm getting my bachelors degree at an online college and I still live with my folks. I am also african american, and due to my parents being of the older mindset of no interracial anything because the racism is ever so strong in their minds and around our town. Therein meaning I have not dated outside of my race or for that matter within it either, because my parents want me to focus more on my education. Though I have had one crush for 4 years on a white guy that I used to go to school with. Another thing two the parental units (as I call them) have a rule about me not being able to move out til I'm 23. I respect them so I respect their rules.
Insert *Spark*: As I'm not prone to go to the mall or the roller rink like most people do around here for fun. I'm usually at home reading, on the computer chatting, playing sims or doing homework. Now the thing is, I had met a guy in a chatroom back when I was 18, and he was a pretty great guy. He was 11 years my senior and very sweet, funny, from TN and possibly, the first time I think I may have felt love or genuwine chemistry with anyone. As I like to think of it, it was

Hi Romantic.
The first thing you have to put in your head before you make a decision to go against your parents rules is that you are ready to go head to head with them. Ready to stand up to any argument with them and be willing to face and live with the consequences of any punishment they throw at you. This means that the feelings you have for him have to be strong. You will need his support and comforting. For possibly many years.
Talk with your friend about this when you are chatting online. Ask him if he is willing to be your blanket through all this. His reaction and answer to your question will give you a good idea in being able to tell what type of man he really is.
The next very big thing you have to put in your head are your cultural differences. Before you move anywhere with him, make absolute certain he thinks of the two of you as "equals" in this relationship. Call it an equal partnership of love. There are too many cultures in this world in which men think of women as property. Do not let yourself get caught in that life-threatening situation.
So now, if everything above is good, agree to date him. Go on many dates ---BEFORE--- you move in together. If you are comfortable and happy being with him, enjoy his company, and feel that he is showing that you are important to him too, then go from there.
Jesacomi
Welcome to the board cursed_romantic,
While you may be ready for a relationship, I'm wondering how much of 'being in a relationship' helps with getting out of your parents house?
Welcome to the board cursed_romantic,
Didn't you say that he wouldn't be moving to Canada for about another two years? Wouldn't be then that you met him or would it be before that?
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Hello,
Yes it would be then that I would have met him. Though admittedly after reading the other posts, I have to say that I wouldn't dream of leaving one house and going to another so quickly like that. I mean I have thought this through from all angles and sides of the table, and I'm definitely cautious by nature. So probably quite a few dates, hell probably even 2 more years getting to know each other in person to fully understand him better. He is cool with that too. Just I'm still kind of worried that if things do work out, if he would be ready for a serious relationship or not. But for now I guess I should relax and live in the moment until things progress further.
Cursed_Romantic
Cursed_Romantic
Since meeting him is still so far in the future, I don't think you should stress about it. Relax and joy the way things are right now.
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