Please forgive and forget
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Please forgive and forget
| Fri, 06-11-2004 - 10:48am |
In November of 2003, I found out that my boyfriend got a girl that he was with for 3 years pregnant. I was upset, and in turn slept with his cousin. I regret my actions, and I told him what happened. Since then, he told me he forgave me, because he messed up too. He also told me I was on punishment, and said that he wants me to stay at home for my "punishment." Last night, he didn't come in until 3:00-4:00 this morning, and tells me that he was watching the game, and kicking back with the fellas. He also broke up with me this morning, because he needs a girl who is loyal and faithful. I asked him how he could do this to me, and he said because I did it to him. I really am tired of the roller coaster ride ever since I confessed how I was unfaithful to him, back in November. He continues to throw this in my face, but only when I think he feels guilty about his actions, or I tell him he was wrong in some way. But he forgot why all of this happened in the first place....he got someone pregnant. I know two wrongs don't make it right, but come on, I got past it and so he needs to either do the same thing, or stay out of my life.

If he broke up with you, isn't he out of your life?
I can't believe you would give the time of day to someone who 'punished' you like a father to a 7 year old.
Why are you attracted to this kind of man? Can you imagine a relationship with him and another woman and a child?
This guy is using what you did as an excuse to treat you poorly and to do what he wants to do (stay out all night, etc). He's sending the message that he's not able to forgive and forget. If he was really interested in forgiving and rebuilding, the two of you would be in cousneling to do just that.
Carrie