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| Wed, 10-06-2004 - 2:04pm |
My boyfirend of a year and a half just moved in with me. He likes to hang out with his friends a lot. It seems like too much. Everynight he hangs out with them away from home and does not get home until 8 or 10. Last night he did not get home until 2 am. I don't mind him hanging out with them but it seems like it is too much. He says that he wants to get married, but I am not sure if I want to marry someone that spends more time with his buddies than with me. When I try to talk to him about this he says that he is just spending time with them and its not a big deal. He says he feels like a need to just relax. I am not sure what to do. I love him more than I have ever loved anyone and I know that he loves me but is this a serious issue. I am not sure what to do.

I should be taking my own advice ;)
Pianoguy read your post twice...and the only song floating through his head was the Elton John tune: "I Gotta Get A Meal Ticket!"
Does this tell you something?
I'm not suggesting the b/f doesn't want to spend time with you, but it's obvious by the number of nights he's away..........that he's basically coming home to use the shower and change his clothes!
Reality: Guys hang out with their friends...both male and female. But the amount of time should be reduced if the 2 of you moved in together "to be with each other more!" So if you don't like the percentage now...DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT MARRIAGE!
Wedding rings indicate that the man and woman are bonded together...not that the man has acquired "a leash" and you'll decide when to let him off it! Judging from your insecurities about your love for this fella...give him a month's notice to move. If he asks you why...tell him that you're not comfortable "living with him" under the current arrangement...and that you want your space back.
Just expect a HUGE BLOW UP after you 'serve notice'....cuz you'll definitely get one from him!!!!
Pianoguy