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| Thu, 06-03-2004 - 8:22pm |
I'v been in a realionship for 3 years now. We met at work and started hanging out as friends and it grew from there. We have the best communication I could ever of imagined having, we laugh and have fun with eachother and we dont argue over the little things. But out problem resides in RELIGION. I was never really brought up religous but that doesnt mean I dont beleive in god, I just think that all the diffrent churches are confusing and how can you tell whats right. Anyway, he is MUSLIM and he beleives very strongly in his religion he would like to teach his future children the religion (which I agreed to because his religion has made him such a wonderful person and I dont think its a bad religion) but the problem is he wants his wife to be muslim too so there isnt any confusion with the children or conflict between us. I'v read some of the religion and I dont completely disagree with it, but converting to this religion would he a VERY BIG thing. I feel as if I would be compromising who I am if I convert. We have talked about it over and over and we couldnt find a middle. Its either this or nothing and I cant ask him to give up his beleifs. I would really like to hear everyones advice. Am I being selfish? Should I do it for love? Please help!!

That's right. He is so strong in his convictions that you must assume he won't change.
So what will you do? Will you resent him if you convert? Will you feel comfortable raising kids this way. What about youru families and friends? How will they feel and how will that affect you?
I personally don't believe that people should convert to
No religion is completely permissive. Every one has its rules and guidelines. But the Muslim faith has very strict guidelines regarding women. Even more permissive sectors of the US Muslim faith have restrictions that you, as a non-denominational person, may find constricting. I would suggest you research what your role would be as a Muslim wife before committing to the religion.
Ultimately, your committment and relationship to God is a very personal decision. You should make the choice not in order to win someone's heart but to open your heart to what you believe is God's truth. Choose a religion based on what your heart tells you is the true gospel, or Word of God, not based on your heart pining for a man. A religious promise made under false terms will not be one you hold yourself to in the long run. Think long and hard about your expectations of life and marriage before making this big step.