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| Tue, 05-18-2004 - 9:31pm |
Please tell me what you wud do if you were in my shoes.
I've been married for the past 1.5 yrs. Though there were no major problems in my married life, I've always felt unloved, lonenly and insecure. It was like that for abt a year after marriage. Slowly I started feeling secure.. But lately there have been a lot of issues and once again I went back to square one. I feel that my husband doesn't care abt me and I'm no where in his priority list. I told him that and he said I'm overreacting. I told him that we should go to a marriage counsellor and he said we'll do that. This happenned on Sunday before he left for a business trip.
Its likely that we might relocate to a different sate( this is where he is now on business) in a few months and that is where his ex-lover stays( he was the one who had feelings for her. He proposed, she rejected but they are continuing as friends. She got married recently). Before leaving he said he doesn't feel like going and wants to be with me atleast 25 times. I truly thought he'll miss me and called him Monday morning.. He was on his way to work. We spoke and he said he'll call me during the day..but didn't.Understood he was busy. Given the time difference between our places(3hrs) I expected that he would atleast call me after office. I waited till his time 6:00PM and when I called he was on the phone with his ex-lover. He said she invited him to her place. I asked him to go and also enquire abt the place( we were already planning on asking her abt the place) since we'll move there. Then i asked him to call back after he is done talking with her. Then I waited for 20mins.. he didn't call. So I called back to let him know that I'm going to bed. He said he finished talking to her 5 mins back.. why didn't he call me then? Doesn't he know that I was waiting for his call. All these days i didn't feel anything when he spoke to her.. He generally is not comfortable talking to others,..but with her he talks for a long time( he has spoken only 4 times after our marriage as far as I know).. Now I feel jealous and insecure. After moving to that place he'll definitely be in touch with her and talk often which will make me feel even more insecure and unhappy. His office is very close to her house. What should I do? Am I over reacting? I feel I'll lose my life if I move there.. Should I tell him abt my feelings? He'll definitely feel that I'm over reacting.
Please help..I have nobody else to share my feelings.
Thanks
