please help

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Registered: 09-05-2008
please help
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Fri, 09-05-2008 - 8:52pm

I messed up big time. I've been with my boyfriend for almost

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: gothykkurtain
Fri, 09-05-2008 - 9:08pm
Welcome to the board gothykkurtain,

So I am assuming that you and your bf and still together? It is good that you are ending your drug use. That can only improve your life. Do you know why you cheated on your bf? Have you ended your friendship with the best friend that you cheated with because I think that is going to be key in fixing your relationship with your bf.
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Registered: 07-07-2006
In reply to: gothykkurtain
Fri, 09-05-2008 - 9:17pm

Gothykkurtain,


I am new here too, but welcome.


Your being unfaithful to your boyfriend was probably a bigger blow to your boyfriend than you realize.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2008
In reply to: gothykkurtain
Fri, 09-05-2008 - 10:05pm

"Sometimes that is what it takes in life - to almost lost something - before you appreciate it."


Why are people like this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2008
In reply to: gothykkurtain
Fri, 09-05-2008 - 10:22pm

Not sure what to say except that he cant mean that much to you - drugs or not - to cheat.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-06-2008
In reply to: gothykkurtain
Sat, 09-06-2008 - 4:51am
i don't know much about drugs.
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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: gothykkurtain
Sat, 09-06-2008 - 9:41am

gothyk,

The members here try to give advice that, for the most part, involves trying to get people to do the "right" thing when the wrong one results in hurting people and/or themselves.

If your boyfriend came here and posted instead of you, EVERYONE here would tell him to leave you. If he doesn't break up with you over this then he is sacrificing too much for a relationship. For his own sake, under no circumstances should he ever see you again.

You cannot "explain" to him that you're satisfied with him because you have proven to him that you're not. Three weeks of being drug-free is nothing to get excited about. If you're serious about straightening yourself out, find a drug/alcohol counselor or support group. You went seven months after cheating on him before deciding that you wanted to stop using drugs. No I don't see that as a huge step toward change.

Please let him end this relationship so you can both start over.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: gothykkurtain
Sat, 09-06-2008 - 1:09pm

Welcome to the board gothykkurtain,


Sure people can change if they are motivated to so for themselves, not for another person.