PLEASE HELP

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Registered: 08-24-2008
PLEASE HELP
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Sun, 08-24-2008 - 8:10pm

I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. We started dating when I was just a freshman in high school, and now I am graduated and starting college. He is 4 months older than me, but was a grade ahead.


We like to think it was a love at first sight. Things just automatically clicked between us. We never fought, and always had the BEST times together.


We went over 2 and a half years without any serious fights or breaking up, but before my senior year we did. Pressure from my parents saying i needed to enjoy my senior year, him enjoying the perks of not having school, i.e. going out and drinking a bunch with friends. It all just became a little much and we decdied to take a break.


A co-worker of mine was trying to help us work things out. She would talk to him, and talk to me, and tell me how much he still loved and cared for me.

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Registered: 04-25-2008
In reply to: mbw_32
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 3:49pm

Hi mbw,


Wow, you guys have been through a lot, but I think the damage has already been done and what will fix you guys to give you any chance of getting back together in a HEALTHY relationship is time away from one another to figure out why you cheated and what you really want. You guys are both still very young, and IMO, should be single and date because you need to figure out what you want in someone and in a relationship. YOu guys both cheated for a reason, probably because you felt unfulfilled or were not happy. If you guys get back together right away, there will be no trust, always questioning everything, and a lot of resentment with the way both of you have acted. I commend you both on coming clean with what you both did, but it will take a lot of time to try to salvage something, and with you being so young, it may never happen because you both would move on to bigger and better things. I hope it works out, but with you going to college, you should be single and enjoy it! Good luck and I hope it works out.

Sara

"Seek to understand and you will be understood"

Sara

"Seek to understand and you will be understood"

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: mbw_32
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 6:00pm

Welcome to the board mbw_32,


I agree with Sara, there has been a lot of damage done to the relationship.