Please help, am I crazy?

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Registered: 02-24-2004
Please help, am I crazy?
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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 6:44pm
Hi...I hope someone can give me some objective advice.

I am 27 and my husband is 31. We've been together for three and a half years, married for six months.

Yesterday my husband came home and told me that a woman he works with asked him to go to a basketball game with her because her boyfriend can't go. This isn't just any basketball game...its the ACC tournament first round game in which my (not my husband's) favorite team is going to be playing. He's only been working with this woman for a two months and I haven't even met her.

I am sooooo conflicted about this. I feel that my husband should either offer to buy both tickets from her so we can go together, or he should not go at all. I don't feel it would be right for him to go alone with her. I can't defend why I don't feel its right...it just makes me really uncomfortable.

He's always had other girls as friends, and I've understood it. But I feel this situation is taking it a little too far. He says I'm crazy and that its just a basketball game.....

am I crazy??

Thanks for any advice.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 6:57pm

I can understand your reaction, I guess, but thinking of it from the other side, if a male co-worker or colleague asked me to go to a

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 6:59pm
I wouldn't be comfortable either -- especially since you haven't met her. How good of friends are they? I mean, has he had lunch with her? Talked about her as a friend?

PS - To me it would be different if this was a work function where a bunch of people were going, to me this sounds more like a date. I mean doesn't she have any other friends? Or friends from her marriage - husband's friends that would want to go?


Edited 2/24/2004 7:49:00 PM ET by itwinflame


Carrie

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 7:01pm
Unless you have reason to believe that your husband wishes to cheat on you, or this woman could really care less about the tickets, so you are upset that your husband didn't offer to buy them from her, I don't see the big deal. If she really wants to go and knows that your husband likes basketball then why don't you just trust him? Is this more about you losing out on seeing the game because you like the team more than him? Is he rubbing it in your face? Has he made any comments about this woman before?