PLease help, I feel devistated
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| Mon, 06-14-2004 - 10:51am |
I am 25 and my fiance is 31. In the beginign of our relationship we've talked about our intimate past. He told me that he spent most of his time alone and had very few relationships. I confided in him that I've only be intimate with one person, and he told me that he has been with three.
Over the weekend I have come to find out that he lied to me. In fact, he has been intimate with five people. (and I have good reason to suspect even more). He prides himself on the fact that his relationships did not last very long because he ends them as soon as he sees that there will be no future with it. (That is very noble of him..lol, but I wan't to know why we couldn't wait to sleep with these women until he did discover if there would be a future or not. I feel like I have fallen into his trap. It wasn't very long after we met that we were intimate, (which is VERY unusual for me, but evidentally not for him) He said that he hasn't been with anyone and so long, and that we just had a bond that felt right. Now I am wondering how many others he's said that too. I am very sadend, angry and hurt by the fact that he lied to me. Although his past is his past, I almost feel disgusted by it. I may even call of the wedding.
I am also angry that he played the act of the poor boy that never had love or a girlfriend, and spent most of his time alone...huh, He's moved around more the 5 times in his life, and according to him, he's had a girlfriend, (or at least slept with someone), in every town he lived in. Real alone right? Please help, I feel devistated by the situation.
