Please Help!!!! Major Problem!

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Registered: 06-18-2003
Please Help!!!! Major Problem!
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Sat, 03-13-2004 - 1:20pm
I feel like my boyfriend (of 3 years) doesn't care when I am crying. He walks away, goes into the other room, or even leaves. He'll come back when he thinks I am "done". The reasons why I cry are always the same. He treats me disrespectful, and when I bring up what he did. Either he yells at me to forget it, get over it (if he already said sorry), or he say that I am trying to fight with him cause I tell him what is going on. I know he doesn't mean it when he appoligizes, and just says that to shut me up and make me stop talking. He makes it a point to act annoyed, roll his eyes, sigh, and tell me that I am going on, and on when I am telling him how I feel. He acts like he does nothing wrong, and to make everything worse, he thinks he is sweet and considerate. He even tells me he "loves me" in a sarcastic voice after I "shut up" and stop crying. My problem is.... how do I stop myself from crying even though he still hurts my feelings? He claims he loves me and sometimes shows it, but is that love... making someone cry, and not caring about their feelings? How do I tell him what he did to hurt my feelings when he thinks he did nothing wrong or may not care at all? Please Help!

-Janelle

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sat, 03-13-2004 - 2:12pm
Hon, you don't try to stop what you are feeling when you hurt, you realize you are in a relationship with a disrespectful, inconsiderate, uncaring guy and you move on.


Carrie