please help me on this

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Registered: 11-25-2007
please help me on this
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Sat, 12-01-2007 - 7:08pm

Hi I split with my b/f a few months ago ive thought a lot about him
since we split. when our songs come on e.t.c i get butterfly's and think thats what we had then it goes. I dumped him because although i was really happy and loved him the relationship went to fast so i broke up with him. months have gone by and weve been a bit of contact he asked if we could try again and i said i dunno cos because ive found a new guy but but this new guy hasn't been treating me well of late and well i miss my ex i think its taken me this long to realize as i kept denying it. is this possible he was so lovely to me and i split up with him and now this new guy isnt treating me so good i miss my ex

what do you think?
does it take things like this to myiss my ex and why didn't i realise before?

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 10:46am

Missing someone doesn't mean you should be in a relationship with them. I do think you should get rid of your new guy though, because someone who doesn't treat you the way you deserve does not belong with you. But I think you've still got feelings for your ex because you've stayed in contact, and you haven't quite allowed yourself to think of the breakup as permanent - even though you have started dating someone else.

As for should you get back together with him... I don't know. Do you really want to be with him in spite of what you broke up with him for? If you really think you made a mistake breaking up with him then yes maybe it's worth another shot, but otherwise, it would be best to move on.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 6:50pm

Welcome to the board becky885,


At the end of any relationship there is a grieving process to go through.