Please help me

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Registered: 01-14-2004
Please help me
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Fri, 01-16-2004 - 10:27am
Here it is,

I feel in love with someone who can't be in a relationship right now. he is a missonary for my church. And missonaries can not be in relationships for the two years that they are serving. Anyways he and I became good friends we have what he calls a dynamic duo vibe like Hawkeye and Pierce from Mash. Anyways we ended up falling deeply in Love. I mean my heart is full of love for him it feels as if it may burst. And he feels the same way. Well he ended up getting transferred and hour away because of our relationship.

It kills me for the ten months he has left we can't see each other. We email each other and he sneeks in a phone call. I know he and I are meant to be togather I mean we are to perfect for each other not to be. But I am still affraid he will forget about me or his feelings may change. He says that won't happen because he knows how lucky he is to have me. and there isn't anyone else like me, and everything will be alright because he loves me.

Any suggestions on how I can survive ten months and how to ease my fears. I mean he and i have been through alot of trials and are still madly in love and we have a really strong bond.


Cat

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Fri, 01-16-2004 - 6:57pm
Wow!

This is a difficult position to be in. My advice would be to remain good friends and do other things when you are thinking of him. Such as hanging out with friends.

You can survive, just remember that in time you will be able to be with him. And to be honest with you, it does not sound like love. I do not doubt that you two posses strong feeling for eachother, but I do not know if it is love.

If your relationship is as strong as you say it is, you need to be patient and just keep telling yourself that you will be together soon.