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| Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:46pm |
So this is a really long story, but I'll try and give you a shortened version. In May a friend of mine set me and this guy up at college. It was the end of the year and I didn't think anything could happen. However, we started to e-mail back and fourth for awhile. We were both back hope working for the summer. After several weeks of e-mails he had invited me to come down for several things that summer. We were keeping it casual. However, as the summer progressed things continued to get more serious. Once we both got back to college we started spending the weekends together and talking almost every day. Things were going great! We had been daing for several months and then in October we decided to make it official. Towards the end of the month we ended up sleeping together for the first time. This is were the story gets long so to make a long story short we had a pregnancy scare. We both freaked out, he wouldn'd talk to anyone for several days. We both said that we were going to be there for each other and that as soon as we knew things would get back to normal. We both agreed and promised each other. We had to wait two and a half weeks and we were both a mess. I wasn't going to find out until the week that we were off for Thanksgiving break. We both agreed that any time we needed to talk we would call no matter what. I let him know as soon as I did that we were okay. He was relieved and so was I. I needed to talk about it, but he shut down. I didn't call me back so I ended up calling him and saying after everything I would hope you would want to see me. We ended up talking about everything and agreed that we wanted to stay together and continue. However, over the next several weeks he would follow through and then not. The week before Christmas break I told him I was very concerned about break coming up and we won't get to see each other for a month and a half. We both agreed that we wanted to stay together and make this work. We both got each other Christmas gifts ( I was the first to give). After we both left I said I would call in a few days and he said that sounded good. I tried to call and no reply. Several days later I tried to call again and left a message. No reply except a text message that said Merry Christmas, hope its a good one! What happened? What do I do? Would he really say he wanted to make it work and then not? Is he doing this because he doesn't want to be the bad guy and hurt me, because of everything we went through? Did he give me a Christmas gift only because I gave him one?

Just out of curiosity, why did you have to wait 2.5 weeks to determine if you were pg? A drug store early pg test would have given you the answer immediately. It would have been better if you'd had determined your condition before alarming him unnecessarily.
Are and were you on a good birth control plan? If you are relying on condoms or other methods that don't have a very high protection rate, he may be very nervous of you becoming pg if he continues to see you. He is in college, and hasn't even started his career yet. (The same is true for you, but as a woman
Perhaps she had to wait 2.5 weeks for her period to come because they had unprotected sex in the middle of her cycle....and they were unaware of emergency birthcontrol methods?
Anyway, I agree that he's still probably reeling from the near miss and is re-assessing his wants and desires.
Welcome to the board moonlight7186,
I agree with the previous posters that he is probably still having a hard time getting over the pregnancy scare. I would wait about a week and try to contact him then. If he still doesn't try to communicate with then, you might want to reconsider things.
Sorry you had to go through this.
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Everyone who responded to you read my mind also.
The scare shook him up and gave him a dose of reality that he isn't ready for parenthood or even a serious relationship. Did he ever indicate that he thought you 'purposely tried to get pregnant' or lead him on with a pregnancy scare that wasn't real to hang on to him? That is the only other thing I can think of.
Regardless you have made contact and the ball is in his court. I agree that he owes you an explanation of why he is fading out but you can't force him.
I am also really curious about a pregnancy test. It is basicially impossible to get a false positive.