Please help--really need some advice
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| Sun, 03-21-2004 - 4:09am |
"Brian and I have been going out for about a month now, and met some friends for drinks last night (St. Patricks day). Well, I'd been at work all day, was exhausted, didn't eat dinner, and ended up drinking way too much. I started getting possessive when he'd talk to other girls, then when he mentioned getting a job in a new town, I proceeded to tell him that I loved him and I didn't want him to move away. Of course he did not return with the "I love you too!", I'd been hoping for and I started crying hysterically. I spent the night over at his house and this morning I apologized for my behavior the night before. He said not to worry about it, but how can I not? I really like and care for him, we have a lot of fun together, but I think I might have freaked him out a bit and I can't blame him. What should I do? Have I ruined my new relationship? I feel terrible."
Well, last night at a mutual friend's birthday party (it started with the fact that we didn't go together) he pretty much ignored me, and spent most of the night talking with another girl. Then, he, the girl he was talking to, and another friend of his went out after the party and were pretty obvious about not inviting me. Even when we were just friends, I would have been invited before. As we were all leaving, he asked what I was going to do, I told him I was going home, and he said he'd give me a call. Well, I'm not holding my breath, and I'm not sure how to act if he does call. Do I act like I don't care? Should I even answer the phone? Obviously I turned him off by getting possessive and too serious the night of the St. Pat's day debacle, so I don't think getting mad or upset is going to work in my favor here. I am so hurt---I don't know what to do.

As far as him calling - give it some time before trying to figure out how to 'act'. As time passes you may feel differently. If and when he calls, you will have to decide in that moment whether or not you want to take the call. If you do, be yourself, be honest, etc.
Carrie