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| Thu, 10-23-2008 - 1:12pm |
Good afternoon, I'm really hoping that perhaps some of you can give me some advice.
A couple of months ago I found out I had an std and it was very shocking and depressing but I told my new partner which is now my fiance about it. I got the medication and I also adviced him to get tested. When two weeks later had passed I got re-tested and came back negative. So my fiance's doctor advised him that he didn't need to get checked if there was no sign for this std as well as since i was negative it wasnt necessary.
I am now engaged to him and i'm 11 weeks pregnant. and today I found out that i have the same std again. I called him and he was quiet and he quickly made an appt to see his doctor tommorow. However I have had such a horrible horrible week. A couple of days ago I also found out that I am not doing so good with the pregnancy and are showing signs of miscarriage and so I was told

I'm sorry, but I think he doesn't know what to say because he thinks you know that he isn't being faithful to you. He's waiting to hear what you have to say, and if he can continue to play his game. I'd bet he doesn't want a baby and isn't fully committed to you, unfortunately.
Take care of yourself and look out for YOU here.
Why is he your fiancee and also your "new partner"? I hope you are making an informed decision to marry him... A marriage has nothing to do with a baby, it is a relationship between two people only. I'm just concerned.
I didn't read anything about cheating on you, but I can agree that maybe he isn't thrilled about having a baby and feeling forced into marriage because of it. He was given really bad advice by his doctor and now he might have contracted a disease from you.
You're not the only one in this relationship, he's going through a tough time too. You are not entitled to one-way support from this guy when you're not making an effort to be understanding to him. He doesn't know how to be there for you in the way that you want, and I'm not even sure what you want from him. A hug? To be told it will be all right? If you're going to be a mother you will have to learn selflessness and how to care for your own emotions sometimes. Also, perhaps this guy is not the best support system. You should not have to beg him to love you in the way you want to be loved. I'm not sure if this is the right relationship to turn into a marriage. I really hope you reconsider that.
He is who he is and he lives his life the best way he knows how. If you want him to do something, be specific, tell him exactly what you need. You can't say "I want you to be there for me" or "I want you to say something" and not have anything further in mind. Those are unfulfillable requests and if I had to be honest, I think you're craving attention. That's only human, you're in a tough spot right now. But this guy is who he is, if you can't give him the right guidance on how he can please you, he won't be able to.
You have to admit this is a very troubled situation, and you're not the only one in it. I wish you luck, with him and with your pregnancy if need be. Please have protected sex in the future. This is not the ideal situation for a marriage.
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Your fiancee probably felt badly. He didn't go to the doctor and he should have. It's quite possible that he
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What STD are you talking about?