Please, I need your HELP!
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Please, I need your HELP!
| Fri, 10-08-2004 - 10:56am |
Me and my boyfriend are together for 2.5 years now. We leave together for more than one year. For the first six month since we started dating I was the happiest person on the planet. We were great couple! But now something changes. He doesn't kiss me in the lips any more EVER, only in cheek, eyes or forehead. First I thought it's cute but now I think he doesn't love me any more. We are having sex only like once a month for about 10 min. and then he tells me that he's tired and we are only 27 y.o.!!!I know for sure that he is not cheating on me, he goes to school and than home. I tried to talk to him about that but he just listens and nothing get changed!!!What's wrong with him??? Is it over???????? Is it me????????
Thank you in advance for any advice or opinion.
Thank you in advance for any advice or opinion.

Has he been under alot of stress lately? New job, more bills, less money, family problems? Reason Im asking is because alot of times, even the small things, that seem to not bother us- do, and they do to the point where it can effect everyone, even those not involved.
I would ask him if there is something going on that you dont know about, of if he is under staree- you may be able to help, men tend to have a hard time admitting defeat, or that they cannot handle some certain things.
Give him some time, it may just be a "thing" he is going through. But, by all means, dont go against what you beleive to be right.
best wishes,
as far as 27y.o. and no sex drive - well My husband is 26 and is not a sex machine like he once was. Men hit sexual peak between 18 and 22 and then drop off after. They will have upswings in sex drive all through their life just as a woman has he ups and downs. Times of extreme stress and exertion such as school, work, family trouble, etc... effect sex drive emmensely. If he is involved in alot of stressful activities this could play a roll in it. Being tired is a big libido killer for a man - think of the physical exertion a man must go through for the act of making love. Try iniating love making in the morning when he is rested and has not been worn out by stress and a long day. I know that My husband has commented that morning sex is appealing for him, but out of the question for us unfortunately as our kids are up at the crack of dawn.
Kissing - after time goes by in a relationship people can take kissing for granted. Just because he doesnt kiss you often does NOT mean he doesnt love you, maybe just that he doesnt realize how important it still is to you. Many men have certain spots they like to kiss - its a quirk, nothing more ussually. He thinks your eyes are beautiful and satifying to kiss you there. either bring it up in conversation, let him know you really miss a nice long lip lock - and wish he would find more opprotunities to suprise you with a kiss. Inititate the kiss yourself, give him a really sexy one, it might inspire him to return the favor. Dont wear too much lipstick - My husband will avoid a lip lock with me when I have lipstick on because he doesnt want it to budge off on him, so he'll go for a cheek or just give a quick unsatisfying peck.
Good Luck