PORN

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-26-2004
PORN
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Sun, 10-17-2004 - 1:31pm
My question:

What did men do before porn videos??

I have read SOOO many posts here on ivillage boards about porn. Women posting because their husband or boyfriend is watching porn, lying about porn or denying her sex because of porn, or even women posting because they are fearful that their man has an addiction to porn.

A lot of the responses say that porn use is normal and men sometimes just "need" to ejaculate and they need visual stimuli so they use porn.

My question.. if porn is soo normal and should be accepted, what did men do before it's invention.. before the movies, before playboy magazines?

If it is a normal part of sexuality why are soo many men choosing it over real women? why are men lying about to their wives or girlfriends?

I don't think it is something women should accept

let me say I know there are somen women who like porn and I am not talking about those women.. I am speaking about the women who don't like the idea of their men getting off to another woman's image and then are told that all men do it and it is normal. Not all men use porn. Not everyone thinks it is okay and after thinking about this issue I wanted to hear what everyone else thinks about it....

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: batharine
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 2:20pm

are you serious? porn, or erotica has been around for ...... millenia.... have you never seen the ancient greek vases? or read the ancient greek poetry? even in the bible - there are mentions of prostitutes.


its always been *there*, somewhere....

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Registered: 05-13-2004
In reply to: batharine
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 5:10pm
I agree that it's always been around to some degree. But that doesn't mean it's completely normal and women should just back off if they are uncomfortable with it (i know thats not what you were implying sk1960). My guy dips into the pornography pool and although sometimes it's fun to look with him, it still bothers me when I'm in the house not doing much and he choses to look at porn instead of coming to me. I think thats just too much. I guess you can't have it both ways...and if you do it was hard to get there. Once my DH told me that sometimes he does it because he's tired but still wants some sort of "release" and the big M is easier than the whole act of sex with me. It takes less time and effort. That's a cop out, but I think that's what some men believe. It's annoying.