Porn: Listen up, ladies...

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Porn: Listen up, ladies...
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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 10:10pm
If your man watches porn, so what? It's no big deal. My man has a stash of them. It's not like he's got them put away where I won't find them- it's not like he's hiding it from me. Hell, I watch them with him! He asks me to... he wants me to. And if you don't know this by now, you can learn a thing or two!!! lol My man said that he learned how to have sex by watching porns, when he was a teenager. (Funny thing is, he lost his virginity at 8 years old!) I ain't gonna lit- I get turned on by watching porn & I know that you women do, too... don't hate if your man watches a flick now & then... it's totally normal for them. I was very jealous at first, but now I am used to it. It's just "entertainment." He also goes on-line to porn sites. That doesn't mean your man doesn't love you or find you unattractive... they're guys- what do you freaking expect? lol -Tracy

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Mon, 09-27-2004 - 1:43am
Yeah, but that doesn't mean you have to like it. Lots of women don't like porn. Also, some religions are totally against it, so I don't think there is anything wrong with following your beliefs. No, it doesn't mean your guy doesn't love you, but if it's your faith and it's your beliefs then you have to talk to him. If he doesn't respect your feelings, leave him and find someone who will. Because although it's considered "normal" for guys, that doesn't make it right, and it doesn't make women automatically comfortable with it. So while I agree with you...there are always two sides. Not many people have the same perspective as you and that's cool. Everyone needs to believe in what they feel is the right thing. :)
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 2:25pm
True, very true. I happen to be a Christian & I still watch porn. Does that mean I'm a sinner?
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 6:20pm
I can't say, since I'm not God lol. My belief is that people can believe and practice as best as they can. Sometimes we can't help the way we feel and I think God totally understands that. I mean, I live in Utah and I grew up LDS (mormon) and I've watch a few pornography movies with my husband, and that's a huge no no for us. Like I was trying to say, I agree with you in that it's something you can share in together, but that doesn't mean I'd like it if my guy spent all his free time watching porno...you know what I'm saying? Just wanted to make a statement for all sides of the fence.

It's okay to watch it if you like it, and it's okay if you think it's horrible and no one should watch it. It's totally personal.

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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 11:40pm
It's not like he watches porn all the time... he only does it when he's geeked up (on coke). And sometimes he just wants to jerk off to it.
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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 1:35am
I didn't mean to imply that he did. What I meant was...if a guy WAS doing that, thats where it would kinda cross the line whether you are into porn too or chastise people who look at it. That's all.
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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 6:21pm
He only watches porn when he is geeked up on coke... or f*cked up off ecstasy. Somtimes, as I all ready mentioned, he watched it to jerk off to.
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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 7:18pm
Your boyfriend sounds like a real prince. You have my condolences.

But, on the other hand, maybe you two are a match.
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 2:43pm
ivdarian, thank you for your input. Now, what do you mean by that exactly? (being sarcastic doesn't help, either...)
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 3:46pm
I am confused.. in your other post you say you are upset that your man fantasizes about other women while you 2 having sex, but then you say you are okay with him viewing porn?

Where do you think he is getting the images of women from to fantasize about? FROM PORN. Perhaps if he cut out the porn, or limited it, he wouldn't be thinking about the images he watches and instead he would thinking about you during sex.

just a thought, not trying to be mean.

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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 4:31pm
I know you're not trying to sound mean or harsh. I totally agree. I could see why it confuses you. I'm just a confused person, overall! lol But you're absolutely right... you're right on target- you hit the nail. I wish he wouldn't watch porn so much- I can't stop him- he's going to do what he wants to do, regardless of what I think of it or how it makes me feel. I asked a guy yesterday, "Why do men watch porn?" His response? "Because we're guys!" He laughed. Ask a stupid question, get a stupid answer...

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