Porn: Listen up, ladies...

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Porn: Listen up, ladies...
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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 10:10pm
If your man watches porn, so what? It's no big deal. My man has a stash of them. It's not like he's got them put away where I won't find them- it's not like he's hiding it from me. Hell, I watch them with him! He asks me to... he wants me to. And if you don't know this by now, you can learn a thing or two!!! lol My man said that he learned how to have sex by watching porns, when he was a teenager. (Funny thing is, he lost his virginity at 8 years old!) I ain't gonna lit- I get turned on by watching porn & I know that you women do, too... don't hate if your man watches a flick now & then... it's totally normal for them. I was very jealous at first, but now I am used to it. It's just "entertainment." He also goes on-line to porn sites. That doesn't mean your man doesn't love you or find you unattractive... they're guys- what do you freaking expect? lol -Tracy
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 10-01-2004 - 11:32pm
I'm also wondering, if your man watches porn, does that mean he is not satisfied in bed?
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 3:22pm
Porn turns me on... I forgot to add that.

I am bi.

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Registered: 05-13-2004
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 3:26pm
Well, as long as you guys enjoy it together...everythings cool right?
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Registered: 07-27-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 3:25pm
well i posted a few days ago: Husband Addicted to Porn. I don't have a problem with him watchin porn and i also like to enjoy porn. but i never get a chance too. Because it's no fun watchin it alone and he never wants to watch it with me. He rathers lock himself in the computer room everyday and completely and tottally ignore me. That's the problem i have right now. He always tells me he is to tired for sex with me, but he is never to tired to jack off to the porn. When i ask if i can watch with hin he gets mad adn he has a really bad temper. The other thing that bothers me is that we are a good lookin couple. He is 6 ft 5 tan built great body, the works. I too am not that bad, i don't want to sound conceited but i'm 5 ft5 106 pds., long straight brown hair, tan, and with a toned body, athletic shape. But the porn he look at are old fat ugly women. I don't understand at all that he rather masturbate to that than to have me in the real flesh. I am of course small chested (36a) but it fits my body shape and since i'm a tiny girl they look normal size on me, not flat chested. But he says he loves my body the way it is. But he must not love it too much cause he has nothing to do with me. Oh well, I'm just ventin my problems. a lot of stress. sorry, don't know what else to say. thnx for readin anyway.

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 4:17pm
I mean its great that a lot of girls have no problems with their guy fantazising about other girls, but I don't know how to get over it> I have no sexual thoughts about other guys whatsoever..??????????
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 12:21am
I have a problem with my man fantasizing about other women while we are having sex... what woman wouldn't? But I can't control what goes on in that little head of his... I wish I could read his mind. But as long as I'm the only one he's having sex with, then it's all good! Ya heard? lol
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 1:07am
Ok, so maybe him watching porn is getting old. It's gotten to the point where he doesn't feel like having sex. I'm starting to think that I don't satisy him in bed, so that's why he turns to porn. He'd rather watch porn & jerk off to it than have sex with me.
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Registered: 09-26-2004
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 1:35am
Maybe I'm just an old fashioned girl but I have to say something here. There are too many woman on this whole board that are willing to just accept really disrespectful behavior. Maybe there is a whole generation of girls that have'nt been told they deserve to be respected and loved. I keep seeing "he does drugs, watches porn and does'nt make love to me". Well, since he has'nt spit in your face this week I guess it's all ok. Or is that ok too? Half the population of the planet is the oposite sex. If a man does'nt make you feel that your the most special lady in the world, then to me he isn't worth keeping. He's replaceable. If a woman does'nt think enough of herself to demand respect then for sure she'll never get it.
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 10-27-2004 - 3:05pm
You're so right on, though............
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Registered: 07-29-2004
Thu, 10-28-2004 - 9:27am
Maybe it is not the porn entirely causing the problem. Maybe the drugs are having an infleuence too. Your boyfriend seems to have a problem dealing with reality, and you, my dear, are a reality. Having a relationship with a real person takes time and energy which he doesn't seem to want to exert. I think you like the occasional escape, but he is way past that. There is where you are having the problem.