Porn on our computer?

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Registered: 09-07-2004
Porn on our computer?
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 12:44am
I am 27 have been married for 5 years and my husband and I have no children, nor is there anyone else living in our house (or with access to our home computer). I was searching for a specific picture (of me) on our computer and I just found a whole folder (hidden) full of porn. But not just any porn: pictures of women on their periods and related images (tampons, etc.). I just don't know what to make of this. There are quite a lot of photos (~50) and I think they're pretty, for lack of a more mature word, icky. Anyway, I'm a little shocked that my husband 1) likes this 2) likes this enough to download this onto our home computer. Do I tell him I found these? Do I tell him I think it's gross? It's not like I was snooping, but I feel very strange about these pictures. What in the world do they mean?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 12:20pm
That is gross. Sounds like your husband has an interesting fetish. It might not be a big deal though. You have to find out where his head is at with this. He might have just been incredibly curious about this or he might actually find this stuff a turn on. Who knows?

If it were me, I'd talk to him about it. Not confrontationally or anything, just talk to him. Tell him you were looking for something and found them and now you are curious about it. Try to keep him from being defensive because that will get you nowhere. Try to be open and get him to open up about it too.

This is weird, to be sure, but it is probably just a harmless interest.

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Registered: 01-01-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 12:46pm
Talk to him. I understand how it is to be surprised on my computer, finding strange pop-ups which I would rather not see.

I confronted my husband on porn which I found on our home computer. Though I am typically a pretty secure and confident person, it made me feel uncomfortable. Talking with my husband about it was the best thing I could have done. If I had kept inside, I would have felt worse. He explained to me his feelings and vice versa.

While the tampon thing is not very attractive sounding, he may just be curious. Tell him you weren't snooping, you happened to stumble across it. Tell him it surprised you.

Good luck.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 2:30pm
I agree. It probably isn't a big deal. You probably have it in your mind a lot, though, so you might start acting a little strangely toward your guy. Men can be weird, huh? I feel a little bad for him since his "thing" isn't the mainstream stuff that most women might find on their computers. You might want to figure out a very safe (for him) way of talking about it. Obviously he isn't completely out there, or he wouldn't have had such a wealth of images to download.

Just a quirky thought: have you searched on the Internet to see what this might mean, why someone might be into it, etc.? It might help you when you talk about it.
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Registered: 09-07-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 10:01pm


Thank you so much ladies! I'm feeling a little better now. It's funny because I think of us as an extremely openminded couple and I certainly wouldn't care if he looked at porn. I just thought that *this* particular form/content was really weird. I mean, we've been married for 5 years and nothing has come up before now. Anyway, thanks again for the words of encouragement. I have to go talk to him; wish me luck!