Possible???

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Registered: 02-18-2004
Possible???
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 10:34pm
I have written on the message board in general disscusions, but I have a real weird akward question to ask. If you read my other message it gives you sort of a back ground, but to make a long story-short, I have been dating a guy from the internet, in person, for about a month and a half, and I really like him--ALOT--. I was wondering is it pssible, and if so, a bit wierd or obsessive, to love a guy after such a short time?
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Registered: 08-13-2003
In reply to: sdrockstar
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 11:07pm
Well in my opinion, there really isn't a set amount of time you have to be with someone before you love them BUT i definitley think a month and a half is too short. I dont want this to sound harsh but you still don't know the REAL him. Guys arent completely themselves in the beginnign of relationships. But stick around because if you feel this strongly already, somethign great might develop. :)
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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: sdrockstar
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:03am
I wouldn't say it's impossible, but just keep in mind that only time can show you if this is truly what you believe it to be in the beginning. If, after months and years go by, you both still feel the same way about one another, then it just may be a right fit for both of you. It has to be mutual, of course. But the only sure way to know is with the passage of time. There is no guarantee up front. You just have to keep getting to know one another (I think it takes about a year to really know someone well as a person) and spending time together. It really doesn't matter if what you feel now can be technically labelled "love", does it? Really nobody can answer that or tell you if what you feel is love or not. Hope this helps.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: sdrockstar
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 11:27am

I dont think love has a set timeline.Although Its MY opinion that that month and some odd weeks is too short to know someone enough to ditinguish between love and lust.


Continus getting to know him, take things slow and everything else will fall into place.Dont rush things, If Its meant to be, he'll be there still, no matter how long it takes to get there


Good luck,