Pregnant with Strained Marriage

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Registered: 09-07-2007
Pregnant with Strained Marriage
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Thu, 07-17-2008 - 4:36am

Hi everyone-


I'm hoping for some perspective.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 9:48am

You are correct. You do need professional help to deal with the problems going on between the two of you. And, yes, a pregnancy always does bring new pressure, but it can also bring the two of you closer together. No matter how tired you are, (and even though you are pregnant), it is very important to devote quality time to the relationship. It should not be put on the back burner. Schedule time together, take a couple massage, go for walks, take the pressure off each other in terms of dealing with difficult issues and have fun. Get a baby sitter for your other child and make sure this happens. Men often feel as though their wives are being taken away by the demands of motherhood and there's little left for them. It can be hard for them to give to their wives if they do not feel their wives have time, love and energy for them. This can be remedied now. And, later on, it can help to see a couples therapist. And, I also suggest, that you get some counselling of your own now. This can provide the support, clarity and sense of direction you badly need.


All good wishes,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 1:48pm

Welcome to the board avon-lady-2002


Reading material to consider:


Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw


Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix


Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman


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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 07-18-2008 - 2:04pm

Welcome to the board avon-lady-2002,


I know this probably won't make you feel any better, but there are lots of women that post on the board that have problems getting their husbands to contribute to the housework. There seems to be no easy solution to it. You could try making lists and having him assigned to do things, asking him to do things, or possibly getting