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Privacy issues
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:26pm |
How much is none of my business? My beau and I are going to move in together next month. We are really in love and have a great relationship. My problem is the issue of privacy and minding my own business. I am not a gossip and I hate being in someone else’s business, but when it comes to him I want to know everything and he isn’t the same.
For example today in the mail he received a letter that said "personal and confidential", when I asked him what it was about his response was "its nothing ... don’t worry" and he refused to tell me anything else. He knows that stuff like that really bothers me, and I know that he hates that fact that I always want to know. So my question is how much is really none of my business. I think at times he knows that I am going to ask and he likes keeping me on edge.
I am not sure what the best response is should I just leave it alone and not play his game or.... I have no idea.

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Kidding aside - Dr Laura's book 10 Things Couple's do to mess up their relationship has a chapter on Privacy vs Secrecy - you might try reading it together BEFORE you move in together.
My best to you.
Carrie
How often does he do this?
See, I don't see this the same way, he doesn't need her asking him what something is everytime she runs into something.
James
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He probably keeps a lot from me but I dont know about it. The only reason I knew about this is because we work togther and the letter came through my office
If it affects your life and your life with him then, personally, I'm of the opinion that you need to know.
I don't recommend you keeping secrets, though it would give him a taste of his own medicine.
Before you move in with him, consider couple's counseling..... it can help you work through these kinds of issues.
Edited 2/17/2004 4:39:58 PM ET by itwinflame
Carrie
I really agree with Dr. Phil that "those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing".
I agree with Sheri - if he's got nothing to hide, why the secrecy?
Peace - Pebbles
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